Solo Squad Goals: How To Boss Up During Your Single Season

Hi Besties! Today, let’s chat about the often-overlooked treasure of being a single Christian woman. It can be tempting to view this time through the lens of loneliness or longing. But let’s step back and rejoice in the beauty of this season! Being single is not merely a pause; it’s a season ripe with purpose, peace, and the potential for personal growth. Let’s go through it together.

1. Discovering Joy in Your Single Season

Many of us can relate to the yearning for companionship. However, a significant part of your single journey is embracing who you are in Christ—a beloved daughter of the King. “Delight yourself in the Lord; and He will give you the desires of your heart.” (Psalm 37:4, ESV). This scripture assures us that our happiness should stem from our relationship with Him, rather than our relationship status.

Take this time to grow in hobbies, volunteer, or nourish your friendships. Explore those gifts that have long been tucked away! Find joy in discovering who God made you to be. And remember, thriving in your single season is also about advancing toward your purpose in Christ, where serving others and enriching your faith can fill your heart with unshakeable joy.

2. Cultivating Peace in Your Heart

Finding your peace amid anxiety is essential. Start each day with a quiet time in prayer and Scripture. “You keep him in perfect peace whose mind is stayed on You because he trusts in You.” (Isaiah 26:3, ESV). Place your trust in God’s plan, allowing Him to guard your heart and mind.

Journaling your thoughts can also be helpful. Pour out those prayer requests and dreams on paper. There is a therapeutic quality in writing, allowing you to breathe deeper and trust in His purpose for your life, especially when feelings of heartbreak loom.

3. Purposeful Dating with Godly Intentions

If you decide to date, it’s vital to approach it with prayerful consideration. A Godly woman seeks a partner who shares her values and convictions. Look for a man who honors you, engages in spiritual conversations, activities and exhibits patience and kindness.

Red Flags to Watch Out For

1. Disrespect towards you and others- If he shows a lack of kindness, he likely won’t treat you well in the long run.

2. Lack of spiritual engagement- If there’s no pursuit of God, the foundation may crumble.

3. Inconsistencies in character- Trust is built on integrity, and that should never be compromised.

4. Talk to the Man in the Mirror

Before pointing fingers, remember that introspection is crucial in our quests. You have to rely on God, your wit, and all the gifts you’ve received from previous quests. Reflect on how you can grow; “Search me, O God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts…” (Psalm 139:23, NIV). Where do you fit into past heartbreaks? Knowing that God can heal and do a work in you that opens doors to understanding and transformation.

5. Vulnerability After Heartbreak

Rebuilding your confidence and vulnerability post-heartbreak is a quest in itself. Understand that opening up again is part of building capacity for love and humility. Lean into your faith and community. Surround yourself with supportive friends or join a church group. Seeking joy and fellowship can help rebuild your heart’s strength.

Start by taking small steps. Maybe it’s simply sharing a trust with a close friend or setting boundaries that protect your emotional well-being. Remember, “He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.” (Psalm 147:3, NIV). Your heart may have been wounded, but God promises healing!

6. Reclaiming Your Peace

When peace feels stolen, recenter yourself with gratitude. Thank God for your blessings, and remember that you are more than your relationship status. “The Lord is my shepherd; I shall not want.” (Psalm 23:1, ESV) - Let this reminder wash over you and bring calm to your soul.

In the end, besties, your single season is a canvas just waiting for you to paint with joy, peace, and purpose. Take this time to deepen your relationship with God, cultivate peace in your heart, and be intentional as you enter the dating world. Remember, your worth is grounded not in your relationship status but in being a treasured daughter of God.

Accept this season wholeheartedly; it might very well be your greatest chapter yet!

With all my love stay dangerous yall 🤍